Improve Your Charisma

Improve Your Charisma

Have you ever noticed how some people captivate everyone they speak to? No matter what they look like or how much money they have, they can just walk into a room and instantly become the center of attention.

When they leave, people will think highly of them and want to emulate them. That's charisma, a sort of magnetism that inspires confidence and adoration. Like beauty, luck, and social position, charisma can open many doors in life. Unlike these other qualities, anyone can become more charismatic.

Relax - Charisma is all about channeling your energy to other people. If you channel stress and anxiety, people will be repelled. If you channel relaxation and tranquility, people will be attracted to you.

Improve your posture - Nothing conveys confidence like good posture. Stand or sit up straight, but not rigidly. When you meet someone, give a firm handshake and look at the other person in the eye.

Display positive body language when you are talking to someone, even when you are just waiting around.

Sit facing the person or people you are talking to, uncross your legs and arms, and keep your hands away from your face. Look at ease, and don't fidget or convey nervousness.

Develop a warm personality - If you are stuck up, no one will feel they have to listen to you. Enjoy the company of other people. Appreciate them for their differences and welcome them into your life.

Get in touch with your emotions - Research has shown that people who are generally believed to be charismatic feel emotions strongly, and they are also able to relate to what others are feeling. Ironically, in many societies, the suppression of emotion is considered desirable. Don't be afraid to feel anger, pain, sadness, or elation. Always be genuine - fake emotion rarely appeals to anyone.

Match your body language to your speech - Perhaps the defining characteristic of charismatic people is their ability to use body language effectively when communicating. Gesturing is important, but good gestures aren't arbitrary.

Think before you speak - Reduce the fluff and filler material in your daily communications. Make every word count, and think about how you are going to phrase something before you open your mouth.

If you don't have something important to say, remain silent. It may seem surprising but limiting the amount you talk will make what you have to say more interesting.

Speak with conviction - Like gesturing, the way you say something can be just as important as what you say. Say something important and say it with conviction. Speak at a relaxed pace and speak clearly. From this baseline, vary your tone, rhythm, volume, and pitch to emphasise your most important words and keep your speech interesting. Record yourself speaking, and ensure that your phrasing complements your message.

Treat people as they want to be treated - Make each person you meet feel as though he or she is truly important, regardless of your first impression, or that person's reputation. If you make people feel good about themselves, they will be drawn to you and hold a higher opinion of you.

Listen actively when others speak. Give someone your full attention when he or she is speaking to you. Make good eye contact, and nod in agreement or make brief interjections.

Make people feel special. Learn to remember people's names, and address them by their names. Smile genuinely when you greet someone. Compliment people freely, but genuinely, and accept compliments graciously.

Look people in the eye when you are talking to them - Ensure that you use adequate eye contact to appear confident and interested. Don't stare them down, and don't glance around the room or look everywhere else but at them. Engage them with your eyes, not just your voice.


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