Tips To Get Ove Your Ex

Tips To Get Ove Your Ex

Right now, you may feel dismissed, rejected and publicly humiliated. All you want to do is just stay down in the dumps. But life moves on and eventually, so must we. While in no way a comprehensive list to get over an ex, here are five general ways to to do so.

1. Pack up all traces of his/her life and keep them out of sight
If you find yourself clutching things that remind you of your once love, or looking for things that you hope will jog his/her memory of loving you, take my advice and back away slowly now.

It may hurt but rope in a couple of best friends to help you clear the stash that has accumulated over the course of your relationship. Separate them into three categories: Stash, Trash, or Sell/Donate. That first anniversary gift, the cards, his clothes, her perfume, and the gift you were going to give them. Get rid of it all and seal up the boxes.

Whether you are keeping them for future use, or giving them to people who are deserving of your charity, it is logical that the less reminders you have of your ex, the sooner you get over them. Just try not to cry too much when you are packing up your mementos. It’s like peeling off a Band-Aid – the quicker you get it done, the better.

2. Refrain from bashing your ex
The urge to badmouth your ex with everyone you meet is very tempting thing indeed. However much you want to rant about how you put up with their disgusting habits, it is best to practice refrain.
(Justin Timberlake caused controversy with his song "Cry me a River". Remember the Britney Spears look-a-like and the lyrics: “You don't have to say, what you did, I already know, I found out from him.”? While Kelly Osbourne took to Twitter to slam her ex - “Luke Worrall is the biggest piece of s***… He is the worst thing that ever happened to me.”)

If you really must, keep it to your closest friends of two or three only. They will not judge you (much), and you won’t end up being known in your social circles as that crazy stalker ex your ex was lucky to get rid of.

Besides, bashing him/her will only reflect poorly on yourself, and keep you thinking constantly of them. This is not good for your karma, or your determination to get them out of sight, out of mind. So, just do not do it.

3. Pick up a hobby you never had time for when attached
Now that you have all this free time, do not waste it by moping around pining for lost love. No, you are going to pick up a hobby you have always wanted to do, or at least wanted to try.

Be it kickboxing, pole-dancing, CrossFit, Muay Thai, travelling alone in a foreign country, karaoke-ing, learning a musical instrument etc, learning a new activity can greatly enhance your well-being and abilities in a way that dating cannot.

4. The best way to get over someone is to meet someone else
You may be tired of hearing this but this cliché has stuck around because it is true. It does not mean you have to rush to sign up for or be a sitting duck for other fellow singles to sniff around.

Take it slow and socialise at your own pace. Sometimes attraction blossoms in the most unexpected of places, be it a friend you already knew or someone you met in a foreign land.

5. The best revenge is happiness
Scratching your ex’s car, stalking them, being purposefully narcissistic on Facebook in attempts to look like you’ve got a better life and other thoughts of revenge may make you feel better temporarily, but it is not going to help in the long run.

Keep thoughts of revenge where they belong - in your head. Ignore all news of your ex, give a polite if freezing smile to anyone who dares to query more about your broken relationship and keep your head held high.

 Soon enough, whether you have remained single or moved forward with a new love, you will be able to once again look at all the things you have packed away, and wonder what you ever saw in that person in the first place.  ~ Gua


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